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Don’t Steal From Yourself: 10 Things LGBTQ Youth Need To Know To Save Their Future

(This is a repost)

We spend this year helping the population we serve find practical ways to move from average to awesome. We didn’t just say how this could be done, we gave a road map in each and every series that was specifically designed for black LGBTQ youth. For our second to last post of 2014 we decided to look at the most read, most shared posts from each series, as well as, the ones in which we received the most feedback and put them together in one post.

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The common theme seemed to be posts that allowed people to take back their power. Many people fall into the trap of looking for excuses. If you are a person of color, you don’t have to look far. Finding excuses for why you have no control of your life seems to be everywhere. But luckily, we at NYPS know better.

In order to have a #StrongFinish in 2014 you need to make the decision that YOU and only YOU will control YOUR future. Don’t let others steal it and don’t steal from yourself.

(For the full presentations with videos and handouts, click on the link)

  1. Later Never Comes I have some bad news for you. “Later” or “someday” does not exist. You have no control over the future. Not tomorrow, not next week or not even next year. The only time you control isright now. Successful people know this. Procrastination is the enemy of success. You can’t mix the two.Here is another tip: you are never too busy to do something that you actually want to do.

  2. Status Anxiety The long, uphill road towards success is one that requires many changes and harsh lessons along the way. Many of these obstacles involve you breaking yourself down and building yourself into a brighter and better you. You will never become the best human being you can by resisting personal development and learning. You are your biggest threat or your greatest advantage. However, never forget that whom you surround yourself with will also play a part in making or breaking you.

  3. Don’t Let Others Opinions Of You Matter Lions don’t worry about the opinions of sheep. We all say we don’t care what other people think about us, but in the age of social media, we know that is not true. This type of thinking can hold you back. In the final part of our series “Selfies” we look at not only why you shouldn’t let others opinions of you matter, but some steps to make that a reality.

  4. There Is No Such Thing As Failure The reality is that there is no such thing as failure. Whenever we attempt to do something and fail, we end up doing something else. You cannot fail, you can only produce results. The first part of our series “Born To Win” will prove that all those times you thought you were losing, you were actually winning.

  5. Your Attitude Is Everything “If you start a positive habit and see that it has a positive effect upon your business or health outcomes, your brain is more willing to utilize resources to continue that behavior and scan for new ones,” said Shawn Achor, author of The Happiness Advantage. “The resulting effect is a cascade of success as greater meaning and well-being fuel more successes than garnered by defensive pessimism or cynicism.

  6. Think 3 (The 30 Day Financial Management Challenge) Most of us know we could make improvements to our finances. But we’re either not sure where to start, or we’re worried about the time and effort that might be required to make the changes. So we tell ourselves we’ll take a closer look at our money “someday.”Meanwhile, we waste precious time (time that could be spent saving and building up our wealth) and any existing problems grow even larger. So, by the time we finally face the facts, we can find ourselves with a tangled money mess of debts and missed opportunities that are difficult, and costly, to unravel.

  7. Don’t Show Off, Show Up! The battle to outdo the next person (keeping up with the Jones’s) is a more attainable goal to most people than a future of having whatever you want.

  8. Baggage Claim It’s hard to let go of our past. Good or bad, it’s part of who we think we are. We’ve invested a lot of time and energy in our baggage and gone to a lot of trouble to keep it with us. Some people tell others about it hoping to earn their attention, gain their sympathy, and perhaps respect for our efforts. . A lot of people carry it as a way to pay penance for their mistakes.The truth is that baggage is none of these things. baggage is a heavy vibration that wastes our energy and weighs us down. Holding onto our past, regardless of whether we did something to someone or someone did something to us, emotional baggage increases our inertia and slows our momentum. That kind of thinking keeps our energy vibrating at a level that attracts more of the same. Holding onto baggage is a form of self sabotage regardless of how it got there.

  9. You Are What You Eat Abraham Lincoln said, “Reputation is the shadow. Character is the tree.” Our character is much more than just what we try to display for others to see, it is who we are even when no one is watching. Good character is doing the right thing because it is right to do what is right. Part 4 of our series “Choices” takes a look at a topic that is rarely talked about, but everyone broadcasts to the world everyday: character. It’s simple: you become what you consume. Become a person of good character

  10. The Past: I No Longer Live There Anymore Our Life Support series looked at issues LGBTQ youth face that are rarely talked about because of the subject matter. This post about being molested or raped by family members as a child – and using that occurrence to achieve something greater in life as an adult, was the most read post of the series and the one we received the most emails from.

F.W.

National Youth Pride Services,

Chicago, IL 60601

Phone. 773-YPS-8051