Rape or molestation in any form can seem extremely hard to overcome, but is it possible to recover from both rape and molestation by the hands of family members? Part 5 of our series “Life Support: From Set Back to Comeback” takes a look at how one person dealt with a well known, but unspoken subject.
“Perhaps the butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness yet become something beautiful”


Unfortunately, my story is unlike so many other young, black gay men living with HIV. I grew up in a insanely religious household, abandoned by my father, raised by a single (read:strong) black woman, molested by family member(s) and left to deal with the post traumatic stress of it all–alone. You see, mama, life for me ain’t been no crystal stair, either. I’ve been forced to face demons I never knew existed, fight internal battles inflicted by external forces, and appologetically live a life “condemned” by the Most High. But through it all, my faith never wavered. I knew that every setback I’ve endured only solidified my comeback.

I made a conscious decision about a year ago to no longer tell my story. Why? Well, it’s simple: I no longer live there anymore. I no longer bear the broken crown of depression. I refuse to subscribe to the idea of homosexuality as sinful and I simply couldn’t, for one more day, allow rape to dictate my natural explorations as a sexual being. No! I told myself that even speaking those things into the universe was doing me a disservice because they forced me to relive some of the most traumatic occurences of my life. Instead, I focus on allowing myself to be human. I affirm and re-affirm myself daily because who I was is no longer who I am and who I am is resilient beyond measure. Just like you!
Guy Anthony
Here are 10 inspirational quotes that have sustained me over the years!

  • Smile; you don’t own all the problems in the world.

  • Do your own thing on your own terms and get what you came here for.

  • Expect sadness like you expect rain, both cleanse you.

  • Our prime purpose in life is to help others. If you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.

  • If someone does not love me it is not the end of the world. But if I do not want me, the world is nothing but endings.

  • Nothing will ruin your 20’s more than thinking you should have your life together already.

  • Know the difference between those who feed your ego and those who feed your soul.

  • Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn.

  • Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside.

  • Make sure they have fallen in love with your spirit first. Your body second.

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Chicago, IL 60601

Phone. 773-YPS-8051