Developing a strong sense of self-respect can help you fulfill your potential, develop healthy relationships, and make everyone around you see you as a person who is worthy of respect. If you truly want to respect yourself, then you have to accept yourself, and work on becoming the person you always dreamed of becoming. In the first part of this series we look at the first selfie: self-respect.


It’s simple. People respect those they can’t disrespect. But you also have to remember that thins that start out of anger, always end up in shame. This is one of the biggest reasons people lose respect for us – and after a while we start to lose respect for ourselves. One of the reasons we have made 2014 our One Shining Moment is because we feel the only way to get those in our community to build each other up, as opposed to tearing each other down, is to give people practical, culturally appropriate tips to get things back on the right track.

Let’s work on showing you why you are worthy of respect.

Everyone makes mistakes. Anything that is created by man is destined to have a flaw. Plain and simple. Once you have a clear understanding of this, you will have a better handle on your response to certain types of treatment from people. How you act in certain situations as well as how you live tells people alot about how much you respect yourself. This open display shows or teaches those you come in contact with how to respect or disrespect you. What you think is respectful – simply treat yourself that way:

  • Take care of yourself. This includes your own personal health – mental and sexual (yes you can be disrespected self esteemsexually). It’s not superficial to wake up in the morning and spend sometime on yourself. I love that saying “first love yourself”.

  • Protect your brand. You control what image you put out about yourself. Keep private things private. As a general rule, stop yourself from doing anything you will regret later if you can. Do you really want to send that photo?

  • Don’t set yourself up for failure. Living above your means, robbing Peter to pay Paul, racking up massive debt that will keep you from a house or car years down the line is a sure-fire way to disrespect your future self.

  • Avoid “Status Anxiety”. This one is from our last series. Hanging around people who make you feel bad has an effect on how to see yourself. This goes for at home and at church. Change your circle of friends and you can change your life.

As far as those who secretly feel bad about being lesbian, bisexual, gay or transgender, remember this from the National Youth Pride Services motto:

Who I am is not a lifestyle choice, I was born this way and I will rejoice! I was made in the image of perfection, those who stand in judgement should check their own reflection.

The following article gives you some quick tops on how to develop respect for yourself.

National Youth Pride Services,

Chicago, IL 60601

Phone. 773-YPS-8051